Comments on: When Is It Time To Let Go Of Your Dreams? http://www.lighteningonline.com/2011/09/04/when-is-it-time-to-let-go-of-your-dreams/ Simple Living... Frugality... Gardening... Cooking From Scratch... Knifty Knitter Projects.. And More. Tue, 22 May 2012 03:29:40 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: Lynette http://www.lighteningonline.com/2011/09/04/when-is-it-time-to-let-go-of-your-dreams/comment-page-1/#comment-13506 Lynette Thu, 08 Sep 2011 07:30:43 +0000 http://www.lighteningonline.com/?p=3188#comment-13506 So am wondering if you have made any decisions ? So am wondering if you have made any decisions ?

]]> By: Lynette http://www.lighteningonline.com/2011/09/04/when-is-it-time-to-let-go-of-your-dreams/comment-page-1/#comment-13503 Lynette Mon, 05 Sep 2011 08:35:50 +0000 http://www.lighteningonline.com/?p=3188#comment-13503 You are perfectly normal... whats better?letting off steam or sweeping it under the carpet? Sometimes one just needs to let off steam... sometimes we just dont get to plan who cops it ... its life.. but I would also ask you to consider apologising before too long. Think you will feel better and it will clear the air. You have been so courageous by joining a team in recent times.. I plain gave up after breaking my arm a few decades ago because I listened to my negative thoughts and they won out..... never tried again and deem myself unable to do any sport all because i never gave myself a second chance.. So i think you are wise rethinking.. but challenge your motives first.... why not see out the season and then have a break and see how you go... perhaps a change of scenery could be good for you .. a new challenge.... and try and remember all the postives you have gained from playing in the last seasons... confidence boosts, friends, socialising etc etc..... I like rivers ideas of other ways you could help out the teams too.... but leave it all up to you ... If in doubt then dont can be a good motto too.... that way you generally dont regret things.. May your decision making not cause sleepless nights!! You are perfectly normal… whats better?letting off steam or sweeping it under the carpet? Sometimes one just needs to let off steam… sometimes we just dont get to plan who cops it … its life.. but I would also ask you to consider apologising before too long. Think you will feel better and it will clear the air.

You have been so courageous by joining a team in recent times.. I plain gave up after breaking my arm a few decades ago because I listened to my negative thoughts and they won out….. never tried again and deem myself unable to do any sport all because i never gave myself a second chance..

So i think you are wise rethinking.. but challenge your motives first…. why not see out the season and then have a break and see how you go… perhaps a change of scenery could be good for you .. a new challenge…. and try and remember all the postives you have gained from playing in the last seasons… confidence boosts, friends, socialising etc etc….. I like rivers ideas of other ways you could help out the teams too…. but leave it all up to you …

If in doubt then dont can be a good motto too…. that way you generally dont regret things..

May your decision making not cause sleepless nights!!

]]> By: river http://www.lighteningonline.com/2011/09/04/when-is-it-time-to-let-go-of-your-dreams/comment-page-1/#comment-13498 river Sun, 04 Sep 2011 10:36:01 +0000 http://www.lighteningonline.com/?p=3188#comment-13498 Knowing when to let go of a dream is easy enough, but actually letting go is a whole new ballgame. Sometimes we just keep on hoping that things will turn out the way we wanted, even when we know we should have given up long ago. (I'm talking about me here, not you). I gave up my dream when I realised it was no longer feasible; when I realised that even if the chance came I was no longer able to do it justice. I'm happy with my decision. My point is: if you give up on your dream, but find you are not happy and constantly thinking "what if..." then clearly the time wasn't right for giving up. You need to consider your knee injury as well. If it's going to be a problem every season, it may be time to give up playing and think about being associated with the club/team in another way. Be a coach? Volunteer to wash the uniforms? Make the after game snacks? Knowing when to let go of a dream is easy enough, but actually letting go is a whole new ballgame. Sometimes we just keep on hoping that things will turn out the way we wanted, even when we know we should have given up long ago. (I’m talking about me here, not you). I gave up my dream when I realised it was no longer feasible; when I realised that even if the chance came I was no longer able to do it justice. I’m happy with my decision.

My point is: if you give up on your dream, but find you are not happy and constantly thinking “what if…” then clearly the time wasn’t right for giving up.

You need to consider your knee injury as well. If it’s going to be a problem every season, it may be time to give up playing and think about being associated with the club/team in another way. Be a coach? Volunteer to wash the uniforms? Make the after game snacks?

]]> By: Kelli http://www.lighteningonline.com/2011/09/04/when-is-it-time-to-let-go-of-your-dreams/comment-page-1/#comment-13497 Kelli Sun, 04 Sep 2011 06:58:45 +0000 http://www.lighteningonline.com/?p=3188#comment-13497 Don't give up on your dream just yet. You are part of that team & so you should be at the Grand Final. I agree with Katrina about apologising to the coach - can just be an apology up getting upset. I believe it will make a huge difference to how you are feeling about yourself as well. Don’t give up on your dream just yet. You are part of that team & so you should be at the Grand Final. I agree with Katrina about apologising to the coach - can just be an apology up getting upset. I believe it will make a huge difference to how you are feeling about yourself as well.

]]> By: admin http://www.lighteningonline.com/2011/09/04/when-is-it-time-to-let-go-of-your-dreams/comment-page-1/#comment-13496 admin Sun, 04 Sep 2011 02:28:04 +0000 http://www.lighteningonline.com/?p=3188#comment-13496 I should also point out that when I say "blow up", I didn't actually yell at her. I just made a comment that I wasn't happy with the decision and then burst into tears. I should also point out that when I say “blow up”, I didn’t actually yell at her. I just made a comment that I wasn’t happy with the decision and then burst into tears.

]]> By: admin http://www.lighteningonline.com/2011/09/04/when-is-it-time-to-let-go-of-your-dreams/comment-page-1/#comment-13495 admin Sun, 04 Sep 2011 01:06:11 +0000 http://www.lighteningonline.com/?p=3188#comment-13495 If I could do it without crying Kat, I'd do it in a second. I'm such a baby! If I could do it without crying Kat, I’d do it in a second. I’m such a baby!

]]> By: Katrina http://www.lighteningonline.com/2011/09/04/when-is-it-time-to-let-go-of-your-dreams/comment-page-1/#comment-13494 Katrina Sun, 04 Sep 2011 00:55:32 +0000 http://www.lighteningonline.com/?p=3188#comment-13494 First thing you need to ring up your coach and make a time to talk to her face to face - right away as the longer it gets left the harder it is - you need to apologise and ask her what she wants to do.....unfortunately unless you play social netball the idea behind the club is to win grandfinals so they are usually instructed to put the best players on the court and if your injury is restricting you that can have some bearing on this....not on what you would be capable of doing if you were 100% - You also need to think about what would happen to your daily activities if you were to reinjure yourself...work out the positives for yourself and your self esteem against doing some more damage to your ankle. But please pick up the phone and ring your coach and ask to speak to her face to face straight away....I don't know how far you have to drive but it sounds like you really need to do it and it needs to happen before training....people yelling and screaming happens a lot at netball and other sports unfortunately but it is unforgivable unless there is a total and utter meant apology given (if this was done in front of the team then after you have spoken to your coach you probably need to apologise to the rest of the team at training.....it doesn't need to be a big long speech, it just needs to be a simple i got really upset and stressed with myself didn't know what to say or do and unfortunately the coach wore the blame) I hope I'm not being one sided in saying this as I have seen my daughter absolutely screamed at by a team member last season and there was no apology given and I saw how long it took her to get her confidence back.....I also know that my other daughter watched one of her team members go balistic at the end of a game and she was terrified to even open her mouth and didn't even want to go to training in case she wore it the next time. Oh I will mention this is senior netball not juniors....And from what you have said with feeling inadequate.....how come you got best player sometimes? how come you keep getting put back on the court to play? Do you think this feeling might be coming from some other issues that need to be dealt with and not necessarily just soley about the netball??? Is it something you need to address in your life??? First thing you need to ring up your coach and make a time to talk to her face to face - right away as the longer it gets left the harder it is - you need to apologise and ask her what she wants to do…..unfortunately unless you play social netball the idea behind the club is to win grandfinals so they are usually instructed to put the best players on the court and if your injury is restricting you that can have some bearing on this….not on what you would be capable of doing if you were 100% - You also need to think about what would happen to your daily activities if you were to reinjure yourself…work out the positives for yourself and your self esteem against doing some more damage to your ankle. But please pick up the phone and ring your coach and ask to speak to her face to face straight away….I don’t know how far you have to drive but it sounds like you really need to do it and it needs to happen before training….people yelling and screaming happens a lot at netball and other sports unfortunately but it is unforgivable unless there is a total and utter meant apology given (if this was done in front of the team then after you have spoken to your coach you probably need to apologise to the rest of the team at training…..it doesn’t need to be a big long speech, it just needs to be a simple i got really upset and stressed with myself didn’t know what to say or do and unfortunately the coach wore the blame) I hope I’m not being one sided in saying this as I have seen my daughter absolutely screamed at by a team member last season and there was no apology given and I saw how long it took her to get her confidence back…..I also know that my other daughter watched one of her team members go balistic at the end of a game and she was terrified to even open her mouth and didn’t even want to go to training in case she wore it the next time. Oh I will mention this is senior netball not juniors….And from what you have said with feeling inadequate…..how come you got best player sometimes? how come you keep getting put back on the court to play? Do you think this feeling might be coming from some other issues that need to be dealt with and not necessarily just soley about the netball??? Is it something you need to address in your life???

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