Comments on: Kids and Facebook http://www.lighteningonline.com/2011/02/02/kids-and-facebook/ Simple Living... Frugality... Gardening... Cooking From Scratch... Knifty Knitter Projects.. And More. Tue, 22 May 2012 02:21:11 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: Jasmine http://www.lighteningonline.com/2011/02/02/kids-and-facebook/comment-page-1/#comment-13027 Jasmine Wed, 16 Feb 2011 11:56:59 +0000 http://www.lighteningonline.com/?p=2836#comment-13027 Oooh, you really shouldn't get me started. As a condition of my employment, I am subject to a "code of conduct" as a teacher. One of the sections states: 2.2.2 (b) Interactions with Students * You must not use internet social networks such as Face Book, My Space or YouTube to contact or access present students enrolled in any school or institute. After seeking clarification with principals, the union and anyone I came across, I was able to discern the following: I am not allowed to have the children of my friends as friends on facebook. I am not allowed to have the friends of my children as friends on facebook. I am not allowed to have any family members as friends on facebook. I am not allowed to have MY OWN CHILDREN as friends on facebook. That's right. I cannot be a responsible parent and keep an eye on my children's activities with their friends on facebook because it would be a breach of my employment with the STATE. As a result, I can't see my children EVER being allowed to have an account. And if they do, there's no way I could know about it. AS A CONDITION OF MY EMPLOYMENT. PS This is not my real name, but Jodi will know who it is by the email. Oooh, you really shouldn’t get me started.

As a condition of my employment, I am subject to a “code of conduct” as a teacher.

One of the sections states:

2.2.2 (b) Interactions with Students

* You must not use internet social networks such as Face Book, My Space or YouTube to contact or access present students enrolled in any school or institute.

After seeking clarification with principals, the union and anyone I came across, I was able to discern the following:

I am not allowed to have the children of my friends as friends on facebook.
I am not allowed to have the friends of my children as friends on facebook.
I am not allowed to have any family members as friends on facebook.

I am not allowed to have MY OWN CHILDREN as friends on facebook.

That’s right. I cannot be a responsible parent and keep an eye on my children’s activities with their friends on facebook because it would be a breach of my employment with the STATE.

As a result, I can’t see my children EVER being allowed to have an account. And if they do, there’s no way I could know about it. AS A CONDITION OF MY EMPLOYMENT.

PS This is not my real name, but Jodi will know who it is by the email.

]]> By: Marita http://www.lighteningonline.com/2011/02/02/kids-and-facebook/comment-page-1/#comment-13020 Marita Sun, 06 Feb 2011 06:02:39 +0000 http://www.lighteningonline.com/?p=2836#comment-13020 Our school has a rule that you do not mention a person online by more than their first name. This is hard with the facebook 'tag' feature which links to a persons full name and profile. We set up an account for Annie to play farmville when she wanted to but she has now stopped playing so the account hasn't been used. I just didn't want her accessing my profile and status by playing under my account. Our school has a rule that you do not mention a person online by more than their first name. This is hard with the facebook ‘tag’ feature which links to a persons full name and profile.

We set up an account for Annie to play farmville when she wanted to but she has now stopped playing so the account hasn’t been used. I just didn’t want her accessing my profile and status by playing under my account.

]]> By: Libby http://www.lighteningonline.com/2011/02/02/kids-and-facebook/comment-page-1/#comment-13019 Libby Sat, 05 Feb 2011 22:26:18 +0000 http://www.lighteningonline.com/?p=2836#comment-13019 Both my girls have fb accounts. DD9 doesn't do anything besides play games but dd11 has had fun developing friendships with her new high school friends. She has been lectured on being careful and reminded that anything she posts on FB is there FOREVER. She is also only allowed to be friends with people she has met in real life. Her computer is in the main part of the house so at any time we can see what she is doing. I guess we just have to trust our children and teach them about this new world that they are growing up in. And we need to be prepared to change the rules as we see fit :-). Both my girls have fb accounts. DD9 doesn’t do anything besides play games but dd11 has had fun developing friendships with her new high school friends. She has been lectured on being careful and reminded that anything she posts on FB is there FOREVER. She is also only allowed to be friends with people she has met in real life. Her computer is in the main part of the house so at any time we can see what she is doing. I guess we just have to trust our children and teach them about this new world that they are growing up in. And we need to be prepared to change the rules as we see fit :-).

]]> By: Beet http://www.lighteningonline.com/2011/02/02/kids-and-facebook/comment-page-1/#comment-13018 Beet Fri, 04 Feb 2011 14:07:52 +0000 http://www.lighteningonline.com/?p=2836#comment-13018 The only other thing I would add.... is to have limits on his time on it. Facebook is great for keeping in touch and a bit of fun out of school, but it also means that kids are not getting down time and space away from each other that allows them to decompress and not get as caught up in schoolyard dramas. The only other thing I would add…. is to have limits on his time on it. Facebook is great for keeping in touch and a bit of fun out of school, but it also means that kids are not getting down time and space away from each other that allows them to decompress and not get as caught up in schoolyard dramas.

]]> By: Wendy http://www.lighteningonline.com/2011/02/02/kids-and-facebook/comment-page-1/#comment-13015 Wendy Thu, 03 Feb 2011 00:11:54 +0000 http://www.lighteningonline.com/?p=2836#comment-13015 I would add "no naming of teachers in any comment or status update - even in a positive way" (as others then might comment negatively about said teacher). I need to get my DD16 to remove a comment from her fb... I would add “no naming of teachers in any comment or status update - even in a positive way” (as others then might comment negatively about said teacher). I need to get my DD16 to remove a comment from her fb…

]]> By: Bernadette http://www.lighteningonline.com/2011/02/02/kids-and-facebook/comment-page-1/#comment-13014 Bernadette Thu, 03 Feb 2011 00:04:15 +0000 http://www.lighteningonline.com/?p=2836#comment-13014 GREAT IDEA!!! 10 years ago when my youngest was little tacker, there were was an msn profile chat ,something like that. I allowed him to set up a private profile where he could talk to friends from the town we'd moved away from . it worked well. It also helped with his reading and spelling. he was slow at both and hated reading, typing with help into this and talking to his nan and cousins on chat boxes helped reading and spelling to click with him as he was practicing without it being "homework" GREAT IDEA!!!
10 years ago when my youngest was little tacker, there were was an msn profile chat ,something like that. I allowed him to set up a private profile where he could talk to friends from the town we’d moved away from . it worked well. It also helped with his reading and spelling. he was slow at both and hated reading, typing with help into this and talking to his nan and cousins on chat boxes helped reading and spelling to click with him as he was practicing without it being “homework”

]]> By: Katy http://www.lighteningonline.com/2011/02/02/kids-and-facebook/comment-page-1/#comment-13013 Katy Wed, 02 Feb 2011 23:46:54 +0000 http://www.lighteningonline.com/?p=2836#comment-13013 They're great T&C's! And a teenager!!! Just one word of warning - I have heard of friends children who have 'dual accounts' - one with all their friends + Mum and Dad, and another one just for their friends. Always makes me nervous!!! Mine are young enough I don't have to worry (yet - hell, I worry about the ABC for kids websites!!), but not looking forward to it. They’re great T&C’s! And a teenager!!!

Just one word of warning - I have heard of friends children who have ‘dual accounts’ - one with all their friends + Mum and Dad, and another one just for their friends.

Always makes me nervous!!! Mine are young enough I don’t have to worry (yet - hell, I worry about the ABC for kids websites!!), but not looking forward to it.

]]> By: Claire http://www.lighteningonline.com/2011/02/02/kids-and-facebook/comment-page-1/#comment-13012 Claire Wed, 02 Feb 2011 22:27:42 +0000 http://www.lighteningonline.com/?p=2836#comment-13012 Well done. It's the only way to go with all this stuff. Open, honest and making sure they have full awareness of the risks and dangers while still letting them use it. I've seen many parents go to the other extreme and forbid their kids from getting on facebook or even just time on the computer primarily from their own fear and ignorance. That just causes the kids to hide what they are doing. Putting it in writing is just fantastic. Again, well done. Well done. It’s the only way to go with all this stuff. Open, honest and making sure they have full awareness of the risks and dangers while still letting them use it. I’ve seen many parents go to the other extreme and forbid their kids from getting on facebook or even just time on the computer primarily from their own fear and ignorance. That just causes the kids to hide what they are doing. Putting it in writing is just fantastic. Again, well done.

]]> By: brissiemum2 http://www.lighteningonline.com/2011/02/02/kids-and-facebook/comment-page-1/#comment-13009 brissiemum2 Wed, 02 Feb 2011 06:37:12 +0000 http://www.lighteningonline.com/?p=2836#comment-13009 Good for you! I went to a seminar last year with Michael Carr Gregg who recommended that if you let your children/teenagers on facebook then insist that you are one of their friends. That way they will always think before posting and you will keep up with them. I have done this and also admit that it has more than one advantage. My grunting teenager actually talks to me on Facebook! Go figure! Good for you! I went to a seminar last year with Michael Carr Gregg who recommended that if you let your children/teenagers on facebook then insist that you are one of their friends. That way they will always think before posting and you will keep up with them. I have done this and also admit that it has more than one advantage. My grunting teenager actually talks to me on Facebook! Go figure!

]]> By: admin http://www.lighteningonline.com/2011/02/02/kids-and-facebook/comment-page-1/#comment-13007 admin Wed, 02 Feb 2011 03:29:56 +0000 http://www.lighteningonline.com/?p=2836#comment-13007 He seemed to think it was quite reasonable. We could have done it verbally but putting it in writing will hopefully help him to remember. He's just stoked he's finally allowed to have a facebook account. And looks like he's going to make contact with a mate who moved away a couple of years ago so that's nice. He seemed to think it was quite reasonable. We could have done it verbally but putting it in writing will hopefully help him to remember. He’s just stoked he’s finally allowed to have a facebook account. And looks like he’s going to make contact with a mate who moved away a couple of years ago so that’s nice.

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