Comments on: Dealing With Disappointment

By: admin

admin — Wed, 26 May 2010 07:30:25 +0000

Leanne - that sounds really tough all round. {{{HUGS}}}

By: Leanne Gilbert

Leanne Gilbert — Tue, 25 May 2010 04:44:09 +0000

I find it very difficult coping with these life lessons that our children have to learn. It is important for them to get the full spectrum of emotions but I just want to wrap them in bubble wrap all the time. My three children’s father died when they were 9 (girl) 6 (girl) and 2 (boy) and they are going to spend the rest of their lives dealing with the disappointment of him not seeing them play sport, sing (both girls sing frequently and perform in lots of concerts). My poor son has never had his Daddy see him do anything and he’s now 9.

By: Sharon

Sharon — Mon, 10 May 2010 00:07:27 +0000

YES! Tis ridiculously hard…

Having a daughter who sings (could anything BE any more subjective??) its tough when you see others chosen over her. Not necessarily because they sing better, but because they “sell it” better. Sigh. I think she should just take up knitting.

By: Kelley

Kelley — Fri, 23 Apr 2010 09:54:48 +0000

so unfair that they have to learn this so young.

And I think it is harder on us than them.

By: admin

admin — Fri, 23 Apr 2010 04:28:36 +0000

I don’t know if there is much you can do other than teach your kids resilience, be a supportive shoulder for them to cry on, and try to find a way for them to learn something positive (or at least character building) from the experience. Our coaches tend to rotate the captains in the junior teams so that every team member gets experience in leading. Perhaps that is something you could suggest to either the coach or your liason person (do you have a liason person?).

By: gnome

gnome — Fri, 23 Apr 2010 03:13:30 +0000

Yep - same here. H didn’t even bother trying out for the netball for those reasons you listed. She doesn’t stand out, she’s not tall, she doesn’t have the right name…
There were tears last night after they selected captain and vice captain for her netball team. the girls were told last week to make sure they picked an experienced player, so when they elected a new team member over her she was so disappointed. What are you going to do?

By: Libby

Libby — Thu, 22 Apr 2010 05:47:48 +0000

Wow - that all sounds pretty lousy if you ask me. I don’t have a problem with my children not being chosen for the right reasons (ie not good enough) but not for the reasons you’ve listed. You’re right life isn’t fair but it shouldn’t be so unfair at that age.

Libby

By: katef

katef — Thu, 22 Apr 2010 03:36:33 +0000

AH it’s so hard isn’t it…

We recently had an issue where one twin went up a reading level but the other didn’t. For a moment I thought about asking their teacher just to put them both up, but that wouldn’t have been the right thing to do… we all needed to learn this hard lesson.

By: Kez

Kez — Wed, 21 Apr 2010 21:48:53 +0000

{{HUGS}} to Lleyton. It’s hard…
{{HUGS}} to you too!

By: Wendy

Wendy — Wed, 21 Apr 2010 11:22:55 +0000

Hugs, Jodi. I guess I am learning that kids (all of us actually!) don’t learn much by their/our successes. We learn by our failures and grow as a result of them.