Comments on: Self Worth and Encouraging Others http://www.lighteningonline.com/2007/11/27/self-worth-and-encouraging-others/ Simple Living... Frugality... Gardening... Cooking From Scratch... Knifty Knitter Projects.. And More. Sun, 23 Nov 2008 19:29:36 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: lightening http://www.lighteningonline.com/2007/11/27/self-worth-and-encouraging-others/#comment-2419 lightening Fri, 30 Nov 2007 03:18:00 +0000 http://www.lighteningonline.com/2007/11/27/self-worth-and-encouraging-others/#comment-2419 Lisa J - thanks for your thoughts. It continues to amaze me how many people have been afflicted by this disease at some point in their lives! Can totally relate to the "silent scream" analogy!!!! It didn't sound like a lecture at all. :-) Lisa J - thanks for your thoughts. It continues to amaze me how many people have been afflicted by this disease at some point in their lives! Can totally relate to the “silent scream” analogy!!!! It didn’t sound like a lecture at all. :-)

]]> By: The Tin House http://www.lighteningonline.com/2007/11/27/self-worth-and-encouraging-others/#comment-2415 The Tin House Thu, 29 Nov 2007 10:51:00 +0000 http://www.lighteningonline.com/2007/11/27/self-worth-and-encouraging-others/#comment-2415 L, when I was suffering from depression (and yes, sometimes it's a battle to keep it in the past tense), I remember very well trying to tell people quite close to me about it, but feeling as if I was stuck in a dream where you scream for help but nothing comes out of your mouth. Sound familiar? Hold on there girl and remember that part of the gift of charity, is a kind of kindness to ones self. As well.....I'm sure your therapist has suggested you try to reprogramme that internal monologue that constantly suggests "everyone else" is doing ok, then I must be able to cope as well. You are not everyone else. You're your own precious self and few of us rarely grasp the pressures at work on other people whose lives appear, on the surface at least, to be happy and stable. I know this sounds like a mini-lecture, but it's not meant to be. Just take care you don't overload the wagon. Lisa J x L, when I was suffering from depression (and yes, sometimes it’s a battle to keep it in the past tense), I remember very well trying to tell people quite close to me about it, but feeling as if I was stuck in a dream where you scream for help but nothing comes out of your mouth. Sound familiar? Hold on there girl and remember that part of the gift of charity, is a kind of kindness to ones self. As well…..I’m sure your therapist has suggested you try to reprogramme that internal monologue that constantly suggests “everyone else” is doing ok, then I must be able to cope as well. You are not everyone else. You’re your own precious self and few of us rarely grasp the pressures at work on other people whose lives appear, on the surface at least, to be happy and stable. I know this sounds like a mini-lecture, but it’s not meant to be. Just take care you don’t overload the wagon. Lisa J x

]]> By: lightening http://www.lighteningonline.com/2007/11/27/self-worth-and-encouraging-others/#comment-2410 lightening Thu, 29 Nov 2007 01:19:00 +0000 http://www.lighteningonline.com/2007/11/27/self-worth-and-encouraging-others/#comment-2410 Meg - yes, the tall poppy syndrome. We get jealous so easily don't we? Well, not we personally but generally as a culture. I wonder if it's related to our own sense of worth in that seeing someone succeed reduces it in some way. Or perhaps it's a "heritage" thing. Between the convicts who were treated like second class citizens in England and the Aboriginal people who were treated like animals, it's hard to build a heritage of "we all matter". I think we're getting there but we have to keep fighting.<br/><br/>David and Trey - you're most welcome. The tree is available for "stealing" by any and all. LOL. After all, that's how I got mine. :-) Perhaps we should call it "sharing". :-) Meg - yes, the tall poppy syndrome. We get jealous so easily don’t we? Well, not we personally but generally as a culture. I wonder if it’s related to our own sense of worth in that seeing someone succeed reduces it in some way. Or perhaps it’s a “heritage” thing. Between the convicts who were treated like second class citizens in England and the Aboriginal people who were treated like animals, it’s hard to build a heritage of “we all matter”. I think we’re getting there but we have to keep fighting.

David and Trey - you’re most welcome. The tree is available for “stealing” by any and all. LOL. After all, that’s how I got mine. :-) Perhaps we should call it “sharing”. :-)

]]> By: TREY MORGAN http://www.lighteningonline.com/2007/11/27/self-worth-and-encouraging-others/#comment-2409 TREY MORGAN Wed, 28 Nov 2007 17:07:00 +0000 http://www.lighteningonline.com/2007/11/27/self-worth-and-encouraging-others/#comment-2409 I like your Christmas Tree. I'm going to try and get it too. Thanks I like your Christmas Tree. I’m going to try and get it too. Thanks

]]> By: David Kirk http://www.lighteningonline.com/2007/11/27/self-worth-and-encouraging-others/#comment-2408 David Kirk Wed, 28 Nov 2007 14:48:00 +0000 http://www.lighteningonline.com/2007/11/27/self-worth-and-encouraging-others/#comment-2408 Stole your Christmas tree! Stole your Christmas tree!

]]> By: Meg http://www.lighteningonline.com/2007/11/27/self-worth-and-encouraging-others/#comment-2407 Meg Wed, 28 Nov 2007 12:09:00 +0000 http://www.lighteningonline.com/2007/11/27/self-worth-and-encouraging-others/#comment-2407 This is a great post. I think you're spot on that people don't necessarily have it as together as they might make it seem. Everyone's dysfunctional in some way. Some people are just more upfront about it than others. Then of course there's the tall poppy syndrome that many Aussies fall prey too, which is really sad. <br/><br/>You, Kelley and others make blogging fun (kinda reminds me of a song...) and espouse the true meaning of community, giving and encouragement. And of course the gift of a smile :) This is a great post. I think you’re spot on that people don’t necessarily have it as together as they might make it seem. Everyone’s dysfunctional in some way. Some people are just more upfront about it than others. Then of course there’s the tall poppy syndrome that many Aussies fall prey too, which is really sad.

You, Kelley and others make blogging fun (kinda reminds me of a song…) and espouse the true meaning of community, giving and encouragement. And of course the gift of a smile :)

]]> By: lightening http://www.lighteningonline.com/2007/11/27/self-worth-and-encouraging-others/#comment-2405 lightening Wed, 28 Nov 2007 11:36:00 +0000 http://www.lighteningonline.com/2007/11/27/self-worth-and-encouraging-others/#comment-2405 Rose - what a fantastic community you must be part of. Dealing with a house burning down would have to be pretty rough! I'm glad you had some good support.<br/><br/>Kelley - you don't make me smile, you make me laugh the house down. You have a gift and it's wonderful that you sure it in blogging. :-) Not everyone can turn the things that you face each day into such a humorous post. You're amazing girl!<br/><br/>Amy - we are all so busy pretending that we're something that we're not aren't we. It's kind of funny how underneath most of us are as insecure as one another. It's like the depression. I couldn't believe how many people have come out of the woodwork since I've been diagnosed. I get stopped by old ladies in the supermarket and all sorts! It's time we blew the lid off all this "falseness" and learnt that's it's okay to be real and it's okay not to be perfect.<br/><br/>Beth - thank you! You inspire me. I so appreciate your willingness to share. :-) Rose - what a fantastic community you must be part of. Dealing with a house burning down would have to be pretty rough! I’m glad you had some good support.

Kelley - you don’t make me smile, you make me laugh the house down. You have a gift and it’s wonderful that you sure it in blogging. :-) Not everyone can turn the things that you face each day into such a humorous post. You’re amazing girl!

Amy - we are all so busy pretending that we’re something that we’re not aren’t we. It’s kind of funny how underneath most of us are as insecure as one another. It’s like the depression. I couldn’t believe how many people have come out of the woodwork since I’ve been diagnosed. I get stopped by old ladies in the supermarket and all sorts! It’s time we blew the lid off all this “falseness” and learnt that’s it’s okay to be real and it’s okay not to be perfect.

Beth - thank you! You inspire me. I so appreciate your willingness to share. :-)

]]> By: Ellie B http://www.lighteningonline.com/2007/11/27/self-worth-and-encouraging-others/#comment-2404 Ellie B Wed, 28 Nov 2007 11:31:00 +0000 http://www.lighteningonline.com/2007/11/27/self-worth-and-encouraging-others/#comment-2404 I think one reason I have trouble accepting help from other people is I start to think that they think I don't have everything together! Funny once I wrote that down it sounded really silly but that's how it is. <br/>So in the same way I'm cautious of offering help in case people perceive it as my way of saying I could do something better or that they are uncapable of doing whatever it is by themselves. I think one reason I have trouble accepting help from other people is I start to think that they think I don’t have everything together! Funny once I wrote that down it sounded really silly but that’s how it is.
So in the same way I’m cautious of offering help in case people perceive it as my way of saying I could do something better or that they are uncapable of doing whatever it is by themselves.

]]> By: Beth http://www.lighteningonline.com/2007/11/27/self-worth-and-encouraging-others/#comment-2403 Beth Wed, 28 Nov 2007 11:17:00 +0000 http://www.lighteningonline.com/2007/11/27/self-worth-and-encouraging-others/#comment-2403 Thanks again for today's installment, Lightening. I am taking great encouragement from the reflection and experiences of others generated by your post.You are so articulate.<br/><br/>Joy list for ME today is:<br/>1. The red beautiful flowers that I saw in bloom on my way to work this morning.<br/>2. Seeing my boys at swimming lessons this afternoon. Their faces beamed at the encouragement they received from one of the male teachers. "He called me a champion, Mum!"<br/>3. A hug received from a lady I met through my work. I took the time to listen and she felt heard.<br/>That hug was such an affirmation for me.<br/>4. Losing 600g of weight this week (whilst addressing my demon self esteem issues and cheering myself on instead of berating myself).<br/><br/>My bringing JOY to others list:<br/>1.Thanking my boys teacher for all her work with my twins this year.<br/>2.Sending an SMS to a friend who is soon to have a baby.<br/>3.Encouraging my friend Kate through a difficult parenting moment.<br/>4.Thanking my hubbie for cleaning the kitchen.<br/><br/>I find that noticing sources of joy takes practice. Encouraging my children provides encouragement for me as I find negatives soooo much easier to find (without really looking). Finding and creating joy is a daily decision and I am hoping that it becomes as automatic for me as the alternative.<br/><br/>Here's to JOY!! I wish you all success in embracing its gifts (just take baby-steps). Thank you all for your encouragement!! Thanks again for today’s installment, Lightening. I am taking great encouragement from the reflection and experiences of others generated by your post.You are so articulate.

Joy list for ME today is:
1. The red beautiful flowers that I saw in bloom on my way to work this morning.
2. Seeing my boys at swimming lessons this afternoon. Their faces beamed at the encouragement they received from one of the male teachers. “He called me a champion, Mum!”
3. A hug received from a lady I met through my work. I took the time to listen and she felt heard.
That hug was such an affirmation for me.
4. Losing 600g of weight this week (whilst addressing my demon self esteem issues and cheering myself on instead of berating myself).

My bringing JOY to others list:
1.Thanking my boys teacher for all her work with my twins this year.
2.Sending an SMS to a friend who is soon to have a baby.
3.Encouraging my friend Kate through a difficult parenting moment.
4.Thanking my hubbie for cleaning the kitchen.

I find that noticing sources of joy takes practice. Encouraging my children provides encouragement for me as I find negatives soooo much easier to find (without really looking). Finding and creating joy is a daily decision and I am hoping that it becomes as automatic for me as the alternative.

Here’s to JOY!! I wish you all success in embracing its gifts (just take baby-steps). Thank you all for your encouragement!!

]]> By: agrantham81 http://www.lighteningonline.com/2007/11/27/self-worth-and-encouraging-others/#comment-2401 agrantham81 Wed, 28 Nov 2007 07:57:00 +0000 http://www.lighteningonline.com/2007/11/27/self-worth-and-encouraging-others/#comment-2401 Fantastic post. Its interesting to realise that others are just as insecure as we are. They too have the same thoughts and fears. We should try and make others smile. Perhaps I should add that to my list of daily todos. Fantastic post. Its interesting to realise that others are just as insecure as we are. They too have the same thoughts and fears. We should try and make others smile. Perhaps I should add that to my list of daily todos.

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